Thursday on our way to the Mensa between history classes, I asked one of the girls what the plans for the weekend were. Everyone wanted to get out of Hessen, because everyone, well, except me, had stayed in Hessen the weekend prior as well. The answer I received was “we’re probably going to go to Köln.”
FlashbackTwo and a half weeks ago, I attended the (university) President’s greeting of the exchange students. This greeting was more of an orientation to the different groups/clubs on campus than a “meet the president” event, but the president did say a few words:
Welcome. I’m happy you’re all here and that you took advantage of the opportunity to study in Gießen. We, here at the Justus Liebig University, believe an integral component of any university is the international student body. And we, here, take great pride in the international reputation we have built and in the number of international students who decide to study here each semester.It’s true. There are a lot of internationals here. The university has approximately 25,000 students. Of that, 1,600 are international or exchange students.
It’s good to have you here. Have a great semester. And enjoy the
Apfelwein!After the ceremony and time to chat and get to know people, most of whom we already knew because half the people there had attended the March language course, we were invited by one of the student groups, who (independent of the International Office) plan activities for exchange students, to join them at a nearby pub for
Apfelwein tasting.
Come. At least for a little bit. The first Apfelwein is free.I was sitting at a table in the relatively tiny bar with Alexandros from Greece and one of the German students who organized the small outing, whose name I can’t remember, even though I ran into her two days later. It’s good that it was still pretty early in the evening, because the 30-35 people who actually made their way from the greeting ceremony to the pub, plus the 3 people who were already there, filled the entire bar.
We had the standard get to know you conversation with the German student. I am American. Word must have spread. Because that’s the only possible explanation for what happened next.
Alexandros and I were headed out. I forget why, but I think I had stuff I needed to get done. This was still at a time when I needed to register in 137 difference places. Granted it was towards the end of that phase, but still stuff to get done nonetheless. Alexandros was already at the door. I was 10 steps behind him, because I’d turned around to put my jacket on. In my path steps a cute, short, German girl:
(
in German)
Girl in my way:
“Are you American?”
I think I blend in fairly well to the European style. Especially in Germany, where my hair- and skin-color aren’t flashing neon signs screaming
Foreigner like was often the case in Italy.
Confused:
“Was it really that easy to see?”Not really answering my question:
“No, no. Do you have a partner?”
?! That took me by surprise. I know Germans have a tendency to be direct at times, but wow. That couldn’t possibly mean what I thought she meant.
Off guard, and holding a conversation like an improv game where the whole conversation must be entirely in questions:
“What do you mean?”Still playing the improv game:
“Do you want to learn German?”In retrospect, that still could have been a less direct and very cheesy pick-up line. But I was finally understanding where this was going.
Withholding an intense desire to say, “that’s the whole point of me being here”:
“Ja, natürlich.”
There’s a tandem program I had heard about that pairs people up with others who want to learn your language. Say you’re French and want to learn or improve your Spanish. The program will find a native Spanish speaker who wants to learn French. After that point, the program does nothing. The pair is on its own. In the five minutes that I kept Alexandros waiting, I basically bypassed the tandem program, exchanged names, numbers, and walked through the standard get-to-know-you questions.
Fast-forwardThursday evening, I got a call from Karl while I was sitting in an apartment filled with Germans. Katharina had invited me to her place, because she was having a small get-together. This entailed having
ein Bierchen (yes, just one) and watching/laughing at
Germany’s Next Top Model, hosted by Heidi Klum, identical to
America’s Next Top Model with Tyra Banks, except that in the German version, someone is crying every 10 minutes, instead of once an episode. …Not that I’m an expert on these shows.
Karl was calling me regarding our plans for the weekend. We were either going to go to Köln or Düsseldorf for the weekend. And it was going to cost about €65-70 with train ticket and hostel. Not really wanting to spend €65-70 just go there and sleep for a night (and pay even more for whatever we wind up doing there), I told Karl to hold off booking anything for me until they knew exactly where they were going, and I’d think about it.
It is extremely unfair
but very helpful that in a room full of foreigners, everyone can understand the private conversation I was having in my native language.
Immediately after I hung up, the Germans were clamoring for a turn to talk. The consensus among the Germans was that Köln is way better than Düsseldorf. It’s far prettier, and it rivals Berlin for the best city in German in which to go out at night. There’s just as many good clubs and bars as Berlin, but Berliners (so the stereotype among Germans is)
can be snobbier (but it doesn’t mean they will be). Whereas in Köln, the people are very friendly, very open, and very helpful. Also, there’s no way it should cost €65 for just a train ticket and hostel. A hostel in Köln should be no more than €20 (which was on target) and each Bundesstaat (federal state) has a day pass between €30-35 that covers five people. Meaning €6-7 each. Given that we’re staying overnight, that means just €12-14 roundtrip. I called Karl back when I left, told him the good news, and
“I’m in.”
Then he told me about the drama. I don’t know what happened exactly, because I only got his side of the story, but either there was a complete overreaction, a misunderstanding, or a combination of both. But in the end, it meant Ms. “We’re probably going to Köln,” who was at the center of the mess, had no interest in going to Köln anymore, and was set on Düsseldorf. Whatever.
Following the advice of my new
Bekannte, and being a grown-up, …at least enough to be able to make my own decisions and not feel obliged to travel like a herd animal with other exchange students around Europe, I decided I was going to Köln regardless of what the others decide. Karl and his sister Greta, both from Wisconsin schools as well, listened to the advice I passed along from the Germans and settled on Köln too. Coincidentally, Nate had already planned a trip to Köln with his girlfriend, who is studying 20 minutes away in Marburg. So there we had it. 5 people for the train pass. Nate and his girlfriend can still do their own thing, and we can all get there and back for cheap. Everyone else can travel in their herd for all I care. …and many did.
Of the 15 people …too many to travel together in my opinion… who were initially going to go to Köln, three (or four, depending on whether not Nate was counted in that initial 15), actually went. Eight went to Düsseldorf, and three or four dropped out when they found out the Düsseldorf clan had no plans to stay overnight in a hostel, but rather see the city in the afternoon, stay in a club (or museum open til 2am as it wound up being) and then catch the first train back in the morning. I don’t care how much fun they claim they had in that museum (or how beautiful they say their 20 minute stay outside the Kölner Dom at 6am on the return trip was), I wouldn’t have given up the trip to Köln for anything. Almost ironic, considering I had zero preference when I very first asked about the plans for the weekend.
The only downside was due to the last minute booking drama, we missed out on the chance for a €20 per person hostel. Instead we had to settle for a €30 per person "budget" hotel (It was actually quite nice).